Dobson's World: Dr. Al says immoral black people are destroying marriage
Our man Dr. Al (Albert Mohler) is worried about the decline of the institution of marriage. Well, except for gay marriage, he wants that part of the institution to go away. But anyhow ("Marriage is for White People"Christian Post 03/30/06).
This nation has been witnessing (and allowing) the undermining of its marriage culture. Throughout the culture, marriage is simply not respected or expected as it once was, and the cult of personal autonomy and the rise of postmodern worldviews have only accelerated this process. Still, the decline of marriage as an institution is not uniform across the culture. As the statistics clearly indicate, marriage is losing ground among African Americans more quickly than within the society at large. (my emphasis)
This is Dr. Al's polite, Christian way of saying, "Negroes are immoral".
This is stock "moderate" racism. Not because the fact is technically untrue. But this kind of propaganda is not aimed at educating anyone on the harsh facts of life for working-class African-Americans. It's aimed at reinforcing the ugly prejudices of the conservative Republican white folks who compose the Christian Right. Repeating endless stories about the alleged sexual promiscuity of their black neighbors was standard fare in the segregated South. It still is for the Christian Right and OxyContin radio crowds.
It's typical for people like this to cherry-pick a portion of an article that gives a misleading impression of the whole. In this case, Dr. Al's alibi is an op-ed, with the same title as Dr. Al's piece: "Marriage Is for White People" by Joy Jones Washington Post 03/26/06. (See? Even the liberal Washington Post says ...)
Dr. Al concludes from this:
This kind of statistical analysis - with cold mathematical precision and veracity - tells only part of the story. Anyone who observes American society with care must notice that marriage is becoming more and more marginalized, both in terms of how it is conceived and in terms of how it is lived.
The acceptance of easy no-fault divorce, the delay of marriage far into adult years, the remarkable rise in rates of cohabitation, and the decline of marriage as a personal and social expectation all contribute to this phenomenon.
The recovery of a marriage culture demands the attention of all Americans, not just African Americans. Respect for marriage must be rebuilt group by group, couple by couple, and individual by individual. Young people must be shown that marriage is the covenant relationship that is conducive for human happiness, well being, and satisfaction and that it is the optimal context for the raising of children and for the sustenance of society.
Well, unless you're gay or lesbian. Then marriage is a hideous sin and a threat to all of decent white people's society.
Dr. Al's diagnosis of the problem is the bottom line for the Christian Right: get married young - to someone of the opposite sex, of course; have lots of babies; momma stays home and does what daddy says; and you can't get divorced.
Dr. Al goes on to say:
Christians have a special stake in this, because we understand that marriage is not only a social institution, but that is also the unique arena in which the glory of God is demonstrated in the holy relationship between the husband and his wife and in the proper ordering of the household as a testimony to the grace and goodness of God.
There's a great deal of grimness and cruely behind what the Christian Right takes to be "the proper ordering of the household".
But from a Christian perspective - not a Christian Right perspective - it's important to realize that whatever element of divine will may be present in the institution of marriage, the Christian Scriptures don't give us a model legal code that serves for all times and places. Marriage is very much a human institution, and is shaped by the way both law and custom define it.
It's not my purpose in this post to pick apart the brief sociological analysis that Joy Jones made in her op-ed. But I will comment on this bit of historical analysis:
How have we gotten here? What has shifted in African American customs, in our community, in our consciousness, that has made marriage seem unnecessary or unattainable?
Although slavery was an atrocious social system, men and women back then nonetheless often succeeded in establishing working families. In his account of slave life and culture, "Roll, Jordan, Roll," historian Eugene D. Genovese wrote: "A slave in Georgia prevailed on his master to sell him to Jamaica so that he could find his wife, despite warnings that his chances of finding her on so large an island were remote. ... Another slave in Virginia chopped his left hand off with a hatchet to prevent being sold away from his son." I was stunned to learn that a black child was more likely to grow up living with both parents during slavery days than he or she is today, according to sociologist Andrew J. Cherlin.
Traditional notions of family, especially the extended family network, endure.
This is presumably one of the reasons that Roll, Jordan, Roll was regarded by many historians as problematic in its claims about slavery. To put it mildly, the capsule description of the family under slavery that Joy Jones provides could have come from a neo-Confederate pamphlet.
It was one of the esential features of American slavery that slaves had no legal right to marry. Rape of slave women (and not only women) by the masters was a routine occurrence under slavery. Children were routinely sold away from their parents by greedy masters. Keeping families together was virtually no consideration at all in the buying and selling of slaves. Presenting slave families as being models of marital stability is pseudo-history.
The slave mode of family life, the real one. I mean, was of course faithfully defended by the Dr. Al's of antebellum times in the South. Along with the rest of slavery. Or, as they liked to call it, "our sacred insitutions of slavery and white supremacy".
Getting back to Joy and Al, this 1991 op-ed, featured on Joy Jones' home page, may give a hint about why Dr. Al finds her so convenient to quote extensively:
Many modern women are so independent, so self-sufficient, so committed to the cause, to the church, to career-or their narrow concepts of same-that their entire personalities project an "I don't need a man" message. So they end up without one. An interested man may be attracted but he soon discovers that this sister makes very little space for him in her life.
Going to graduate school is a good goal and an option that previous generations of blacks have not had. But sometimes the achieving woman will place her boyfriend so low on her list of priorities that his interest wanes. Between work, school and homework, she's seldom "there" for him, for the preliminaries that might develop a commitment to a woman. She's too busy to prepare him a home-cooked meal or to be a listening ear for his concerns because she is so occupied with her own. Soon he uses her only for uncommitted sex since - to him -she appears unavailable for anything else. Blind to the part she's playing in the problem, she ends up thinking, "Men only want one thing." And she decides she's better off with the degree than the friendship. When she's 45, she may wish she'd set different priorities while she was younger.
These dang uppity women, you see, they're just scaring off their men by not being submissive enough.
A more useful Washington Post op-ed on this subject comes from former Labor Secretary Robert Reich from 01/22/04:
Why the decline in marriage? It's not because couples are any more lacking today in interpersonal skills for healthy marriages than a generation ago. The big difference today is that a lot of men no longer represent particularly good economic deals, and women no longer have to marry to have economic security. Thirty years ago most men had stable jobs in a mass-production economy that earned them paychecks big enough to support families. And most women didn't have paid jobs, so they had to get married to have food on their tables and a roof over their heads.
Since then, stable mass-production jobs for men have dwindled, and their paychecks have shrunk. Meanwhile, women have streamed into the workforce. They're making more money than ever (but, sadly, still not as much as men doing the same job).
I'm not suggesting most unmarried women think about men and marriage in such a mercenary way. My point is only that in the new economy, such a calculation is entirely rational, and, consciously or unconsciously, a growing number of women seem to be making it.
It's not being single that causes women to be poor. It's being poor that makes it less likely they'll marry. Poor women generally don't have a bumper crop of marriage-worthy men to choose from. Most men available to them are either unemployed or employed part time, and they earn little when they do work. It's entirely rational for a poor woman to hedge her bets and tell a male companion he's welcome to stay only so long as he pulls in enough money and behaves well. (my emphasis)
This article is also an analysis of the same economic problems, which don't much trouble the good white folks of the Christian Right: Few Good Men: Why Poor Women Don't Remarry by Kathryn Edin American Prospect 01/03/2000. Edin writes:
Mothers see economic stability on the part of a prospective partner as a necessary precondition for marriage. Welfare-reliant and low-wage working mothers worry a great deal about money simply because they have to. The price for not balancing their budgets is high: the stability of the household and the well-being of their children. Though men frequently contribute to mothers' households, their employment situations are often unstable and their contributions vary. Mothers' consistent needs for supplemental income, combined with men's erratic employment and earnings, mean that couples often break up over money or fail to marry because of it.
Mothers aren't completely cold and calculating when they weigh the costs and benefits of keeping a man around. Many say they try to take into account the effort their men put into finding and keeping a job. But if the man quits or loses his job for reasons the woman views as his own fault, he often loses the right to co-reside in the household, share in family meals, or even to maintain any romantic relationship with her. Mothers whose boyfriends live with them almost always told us they impose a "pay and stay" rule—if the men are out of work and not contributing to household expenses, they eventually lose the right to co-reside. One Puerto Rican mother said,
"I didn't want to be mean or anything, [but when he didn't work], I didn't let him eat my food. I would tell him, 'If you can't put any food here, you can't eat here. These are your kids, and you should want to help your kids, so if you come here, you can't eat their food.' Finally, I told him he couldn't stay here either."
Since these men can seldom afford their own apartment and are not eligible for housing subsidies because they have no custodial children, they are often powerfully motivated to try and maintain a place in their girlfriend's household. Often, their only alternatives are to move back in with their own mother or to live on the streets. No low-income single mother we have spoken to has allowed a nonpaying male partner to sponge off her welfare or paycheck for any substantial length of time simply because neither welfare nor low-wage employment pay enough to make this an affordable option.
If Christians really want to promote marriage and the family, they would help that goal much more by not fretting over the fact that gays and lesbians also want to form stable marriages with full legal rights, and worry more about the ways in which the American style of "killer capitalism" is wrecking the family.